Julius* was born in the rural south, the last child born to a small and loving family. His mother doted on him. Women, young and old alike swooned when he entered a room. Tall, handsome and charismatic, he had a megawatt smile that he wielded freely. He knew no stranger, always engaging in conversation within … Continue reading not Julius
Author: Tonya D. Thomas
Eleven years ago, I was holding onto my father’s arm as he walked me down the aisle towards my husband. I was happy and giggly, confident what I was doing was the right thing. I was looking forward to experiencing life with my hubby; facing all of the good and the bad as a team. … Continue reading Difficult
My 50th birthday is less than a month away. If you had told me when I was 25, that 25 years from then, I'd be divorced with no children, living in my hometown, I would have popped you in the mouth. But here I sit, in the very home that was inhabited by my aunt, … Continue reading Wait Not.
All Options On The Table: Communal Living for Singles
When you were younger, did you move out of your parent's home to share a living space with a roommate? No doubt your memories of that time are positive and likely negative. Living with someone has many challenges, but singles in their later years are reconsidering this type of living arrangement. Communal living or cohousing, … Continue reading All Options On The Table: Communal Living for Singles
Welcome Home Sis!
Hey love! Come in! We have a spot that has been carefully planned with you in mind. For us. Sistah,You've been on my mindOh Sistah, we're two of a kindSo sistah,I'm keepin' my eyes on you We are single, mature (40+) Black women with no children. Single or childless by divorce, by death or by choice, … Continue reading Welcome Home Sis!
It’s Not Too Late To Get Your Money Right
If you are over 40 and have your retirement plans where they need to be, consider yourself fortunate. You are certainly above the fray, in this area. Black women have made amazing headway in positions of power in the workforce. However, we still are behind other demographic groups in saving what we need to sustain … Continue reading It’s Not Too Late To Get Your Money Right
Lessons in Style While Aging
I used to obsess about my clothes when I was younger. Was I wearing the right clothes? Were my shoes the right color? Was anyone laughing at me? Did I match? Will my friends approve? I am so grateful to be blessed with many more years and much fewer damns! Chile, if I love what … Continue reading Lessons in Style While Aging
“You Are Difficult”
Eight years ago, I was holding onto my father’s arm as he walked me down the aisle towards my husband. I was happy and giggly, confident what I was doing was the right thing. I was looking forward to experiencing life with my hubby; facing all of the good and the bad as a team. … Continue reading “You Are Difficult”
I wrote a post I never published few months ago about all the things I left behind in 2014. Writing it helped get it out of my system. I felt better afterwards. I put it aside for a long time. Last week, I read it. I realized I sounded very bitter and angry, which is … Continue reading Sunday Snapshot:
Sometime during elementary school, I was chosen for the gifted and talented program. A test I’d unknowingly taken yielded an indication of a level of intelligence that was somehow above my peers. What I lacked in social skills, I more than made up for in a level of intellect, apparently. Once a week, they placed … Continue reading Twenty Fifteen